“We love unconditionally from our inner-most being.  Because, when we do, we can fly and find each other.” — Penna

A lot of people say that they are “in love”. But, what do they really mean by that? Many people’s definition of love is: “Well, she completes me”, or “He’s my support team”, or “We get along well”, or “She makes me laugh”.

Some people also need to be in “transitional” relationships – bridging from one serious relationship to the next – and convince themselves that they are in love to avoid not being in a relationship, and avoid Being Alone. This kind of “in love” is based on conditions, and fulfillment of personal needs. Is that really true love? Are you really in love based on these things?

Why do we Love?

Do we love because we are afraid of being lonely and/or unhappy? Do we love because we feel pressured to? Do we love because we feel that it is the only hope in our lives? Do we love because we feel like that’s the right thing to do for ourselves?

What exactly is Love?

Love – the term can be misused, and often is. People can drop the “L-word” at any time thinking that they love, but do they really know the true meaning of Love? In fact, in some cases using the “L-word” can signal the end of a relationship, scaring one partner off. And in others it’s use can be a means of control. For some, it’s a true term of endearment and a show of respect.

When love is “right” it can defy logic and reason. For instance, I fell in love with a man who is as close to my exact opposite as one can imagine. People see us together and one cannot miss the puzzlement in their eyes. But as a couple we work, and whatever happened during the day fades to insignificance as soon as we are together, or even talking on the phone when we are apart for the day. When “nothing else matters” that is Love. That point of singularity where two life forces combine into a greater whole to create their own Universe.  I am in love with him, and he is in love with me. And, it is Unconditional. Unconditional Love.

This week, search your heart and figure out why you love that special someone. Do you love him with conditions? Or, do you simply love him “just because”? When you love based on conditions, the relationship will never work. But, when you are unconditional in your love, your love can never falter. It is then that your love is called True Love.

—Penna

“All You Need Is Love” — The Beatles

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