How do you know when it’s time to leave a relationship? I’m not just talking about a marriage. I’m talking about any relationship with anyone; rather it’s a boyfriend, girlfriend, broker, best friend, colleague or classmate.

I’d like to talk about a relationship I had with a teacher. I enrolled into two of his classes and instantly trusted him. I saw him as an authority figure, charismatic, trustworthy, honest and someone that could really help me. Why- after meeting him only once- did I come to the conclusion that he was a great leader?

Sometimes when you are vulnerable you make a lot of bad decisions. I really opened up to him and showed him my vulnerability. In one of his classes he felt a need to embarrass me by nastily accusing me of “sleeping with married men”, and “loving drama”. He blurted this out in front of the whole class in such a nasty tone. While none of this was true, he intentionally left the class eye-balling me and hating me. Little did I know that this was a power play on his end. Because he was a teacher, and because students admire their teachers, they looked up to him and respected his opinion, considering him a “Holy” man. Little did the class know was that he was power-playing. He used me to try and build himself power.

He was not at all power. He abused his position of power by playing me to become the hero. He “sold me out”.

But why did he do that? And, more importantly, why did I stay and deal with his behavior? It took me a long time to psychoanalyze this subject. One, because he was so dear to me. And, two, I wanted to be completely sure that this was no “accident” or “mistake” to make him perform such an awful act.

Most of the time you can see the end in the beginning. I should have seen where this trusting him would go. I should have looked around at my surroundings, and the place that he taught, and the people that he hung around with, and taken that as a warning that he wasn’t the right teacher for me, nor was that the right place for me.

What I had to learn (the hard way) is, just because a person carries the title of “teacher”, or “leader”, it does not mean that they are good people or will lead you in the right directions. You have to know your real power, because it is within you. Those people that want “Abraham’s Power” are in no way, shape or form powerful. They don’t even know what REAL power is.

This week, know who you are and where you originated. Never let a relationship run you, but you run it. You are amazing just the way you are. And, you are special just the way you are. Learn this truth about yourself. I encourage you.

Understand what real power is. Power does not dominate or try to belittle you. Real power does not have to do that. And, if those people had real power, they wouldn’t do the things that they do. Like, my teacher, for example. If he was powerful he would have had no need to “appear” powerful.

Give yourself a vacation this week. Either soak in a tub, or fly in your private jet to St. Tropez. Either way, just relax and hang out with your favorite partners. Just be free this week! Your private jet has all of right answers for you right now. I just came from St. Tropez, and that trip taught me a whole lot about myself. It taught me that sometimes the best teacher in the world for me is me.

—Penna

“Venus” – Shocking Blue

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