Last week, I went in-depth about making an agreement to accomplish your desires.  (It’s probably best to go back and read last week’s article Coming to Terms.  You may want to go back and read the article 4 Ys, as well).  This week, I would like to explain why having balance is essential to obtaining success (your desires).

Quoted from 4 Ys: The yin, which is the positive motivational force behind your agreement. When you finally say yes to your desire, you say yes to everything that accompanies it. The yin is very important because it is the positive driving force behind your decision to go forward. It is what assisted you in making your decision, and assures you the confidence in reaching for your desire. It is the certainty behind the yes. The yin is what gives you the energy you need to completely follow through with your desire, to the fullest. It is the force that dangles the keys to your new Mercedes in front of your nose like carrots. It is the pusher. Obtaining your desire is all about having balance. The yin is one half of a two-part balance system.

The yang, the negative influences along the way, is what helps you to actually materialize your desire. But, why is the yang so pertinent? Why is having negative influence so essential? In order to accomplish anything, there has to be a balance. The yang is the second half of a two-part system, and is there to offer obstacles and possible setbacks to help you build that ultimate desire (Mercedes). You see, without the yang, the desire cannot possibly materialize. The yang is the final step in obtaining your desires, which is the influence behind you actually “holding it in your hands”, so to speak. You’ve got the keys in your hand, and now it’s time to take that new Mercedes for a spin!

Why must there be balance?  How can I develop the right balance to obtain my desires?  What exactly is balance?

Balance is a state of equilibrium or equipoise.  Balance also means a mental steadiness or emotional stability; sound judgment.

The universe is about complete balance.  Therefore, everything in the universe has to have balance.  Anything out of balance is chaotic and out of control.   In order to achieve any goals we have to incorporate balance into our everyday lives.  Most people see a completely balanced life as a balanced diet, relationship, home life, play life, career life, creativity life, alone time, spiritual life, and a complete balance of learning.  There are also other types of balance, such as: Balance between punishment and rewards, pain and pleasure, challenge and comfort, work and entertainment.  But, we are forgetting that there has to be a balance of good and bad forces (yin and yang).  All of this, I call The Balancing Act.

Developing the right balance can be difficult for many reasons.  Most of us have busy schedules that include jobs and school, and then other miscellaneous activities.  Who has time these days to have balance?  Developing balance takes discipline.  And, yes, even developing balance of the yin and yang (positive and negative forces) takes discipline enough to know that these forces in our lives are there to push us, and move us forward.  But, what is the exact depth of balance you need?

Well, for starters, if there is a lack of balance in your life, then what occurs is fatigue, procrastination, confusion and low energy- among others.  You need balance to become creator of your reality.  Because a lack of balance creates negative side effects, it becomes very difficult- if not impossible- to achieve what you set out for.

While you need to have drive and focus if you’re going to get things done, taking this too far can lead to frustration and intense stress.  A balanced life does not mean spending the same amount of time in each area.  Sometimes you will need to compromise and prioritize.  Your time and energy is not in unlimited supply.

But, getting back to balance and desires, I want to really explain why having the yang is essentially the most important aspect of the desire.  Let’s face it, most of us do not appreciate what we have unless we’ve struggled for it.  When was the last time you actually did not take for granted something that you received without working extremely hard for?  Heck, most things in life we take for granted!  Without the yang (the obstacles, setbacks, “sweat and tears”), there wouldn’t be much of a reason to have an attitude of gratitude.  There wouldn’t be a reason to push and stretch ourselves.  When we own things without earning them, we lose them.  Those things are not permanently ours.

The yin and yang are the most essential parts of this 4 Ys process because without them together, this process would completely fall apart, and your desire would become only a temporary pleasure.  Wouldn’t it be nice to have just the positive motivation- and the certainty- and leave the negative influences behind?  Sure, but what brings about certainty?  It is our “going through” that brings about certainty and lasting results.

In daily life, the principle of balancing yin and yang can soften the annoyances that often come. For instance, lets say you’re trying to create a painting for a exhibition at a local gallery. Things are just starting to come together on the canvas when - boom - you forget to clean your brushes one night and in the morning they’re a caked-on mess of paint that renders them useless. So now you have to take time away from your art to go to the art supply store. How irritating! But this irritation will make your exhibit all the more rewarding because you really had to work for it now. And maybe the distraction of going to the art supply store will reveal some new inspiration on the trip - or maybe just putting that little extra time pressure on yourself from the errand will bring out your best work. It’s all about balance.

This week, try really hard to see why having the yin and yang as a part of your life the most important part of achieving success (obtaining your desires).  Bring about the balancing act in your life by understanding that there has to be both the yin and yang in order to fully own your desires.

Your Princess,

—Penna

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