“Men are confused. They’re conflicted. They want a woman who’s their intellectual equal, but they’re afraid of women like that. They want a woman they can dominate, but then they hate her for being weak. It’s an ambivalence that goes back to a man’s relationship with his mother. Source of his life, center of his universe, object of both his fear and his love.” –Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider

In a relationship, it is so easy to become wrapped up in depending on our other half. We often times are afraid of being abandoned and alone. So, we lean on and cling to that special someone- in hopes that we will never be left behind.

Sometimes we’ll even pretend to be someone we’re not just to feel good enough to be around that person. Somehow, we’ve picked up- somewhere along the road- that we (ourselves) are not good enough just the way we are. So, we want to make ourselves into exactly what we think would be pleasing to him.

But, in return, we end up losing- because we end up losing who we truly are.

A real relationship is when both people are open, honest and caring with each other- no matter the circumstances. Where they both can stand by each other’s side without the fear of lack, and without the fear of having differences.  For, the ultimate test of a real relationship is to disagree but still hold hands.

A real relationship is when both people are equally strong. And if not, they are each other’s strength. They don’t have the need to depend on the other for approval.  For, they both know the heights of magic they willfully and coequally contribute to the relationship.

Today, remember what a real relationship is.  In a real relationship, you will always remain the true Princess that you are.

—Penna